Ever notice how it’s not the grand gestures that keep relationships strong but the small, consistent acts of caring? As a leader, you don’t need grand heroics to build a strong team. It’s the little things you do often that make the biggest difference.

Based on decades of empirical research, the Gottman Institute’s “Small Things, Often”  approach is a practice proven to improve personal relationships. But here’s the kicker—these principles apply just as powerfully to business leadership. Small, deliberate actions foster trust, connection, and a culture where your people can thrive.

The Little Things Aren’t So Little

A quick note of appreciation, checking in on someone’s workload, or simply asking, “How’s your day going?” may seem minor, but they add up to a powerful foundation of trust, loyalty, and inspiration.

The Amare Way of love-powered leadership aligns beautifully with this concept, prioritizing small, meaningful gestures that show your team you really see them and care about them. 

And let’s be real: small things are also easier to do than huge things. You don’t need a budget line item for kindness or a three-hour meeting to say “Well done!” Small efforts, big impact.

Why It Matters in Leadership

Think about it: nobody feels truly supported because their boss gave them a shiny trophy once. Real connection and leadership happen in the day-to-day.

It’s the manager who listens, the leader who celebrates small wins, and the executive who knows their team’s names and their kids’ soccer schedules. These aren’t earth-shattering moments, but they send a powerful message—you matter.

• Are you showing your team that you care through small, consistent actions?

• What are the little things you could do more often to build trust and connection?

6 Amare Steps to Make “Small Things Often” A Leadership Habit

1. Be consistently present. Show up for your team regularly with small gestures—a quick “thank you,” a check-in, or a shout-out for their efforts.

2. Celebrate the small wins. Recognize progress, not just perfection. Did someone handle a tough client? Finish a project early? Acknowledge it—in public or private.

3. Listen without distractions. Stop typing. Look up. Give full attention when a team member speaks to you. Presence is one of the simplest ways to show you care.

4. Make it personal. Learn one small thing about each person on your team—a hobby, a family milestone—and reference it to show you’re paying attention.

5. Share small successes regularly. Start or end team meetings by sharing quick wins. These moments lift morale and create momentum.

6. Ask how you can help. A simple, “What can I do to make this easier for you?” can be the game-changing small thing your team needs.

Small Things, Big Results

Leading the Amare Way means showing love through small, intentional actions—often. It’s about creating a workplace where people feel valued, not just for what they do, but for who they are. These little moments of connection add up to something profound: trust, loyalty, and a thriving team.

So, skip the heroics and try this instead: listen, acknowledge, and celebrate—often. In leadership, it’s the small things that create the biggest impact.

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Today’s Amare Wave Wednesday Quote

“Successful long-term relationships are created through small words, small gestures, and small acts.” 

—Dr. John Gottman, co-founder of The Gottman Institute

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