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Put Kindness and Curiosity at the Heart of How You Lead: 5 Powerful Steps to Get Started

Your Kindness Policy

“Be kind. Ask questions. Discriminatory language, personal attacks, promotion, and spam will be removed.” This is the comment policy of Wirecutter, the product review website owned by The New York Times Company.

Imagine your organization routinely practicing kindness and curiosity and prohibiting meanness, like Wirecutter’s comment policy does. And not just for customer feedback, but for everything — how employees are treated, how decisions are made, how your organization interacts internally and with the world. This is how Amare businesses operate, profitably putting the power of love to work.

What first comes to mind when you think of your organization adopting this kind of Amare policy for everything?

What might it make possible that now is impossible?

What resistance comes up, if any?

5 Amare Ways to Bring Greater Kindness and Curiosity into Your Organization

1. Get personal first. Write down your personal policy that governs how you treat yourself. Keep it real and judgment-free. Now write one that is kinder to you. Commit to it. Review it daily.

2. Track behaviors. Make a simple scorecard to track when you say yes or no to meanness and greed, and yes or no to kindness and compassion. Notice what situations and beliefs drive your choices.

3. Watch out for the Big 3. Rate yourself and your organization on three opposite attitudes: a) Fear of vulnerability, b) incivility, c) arrogance. Take self-assessment “mirror” quizzes on all three in chapter 5 of my book The Amare Wave: Uplift Your Business by Putting Love to Work.

4. Create a manifesto. Outline a public declaration of your policies and aims related to kindness and curiosity. Review and refine with your team. Use this Amare Way Manifesto as a template to get started.

5. Start with one change. Select one specific and frequently occurring behavior to practice doing with more kindness and curiosity. Pay attention to your internal reaction and the reaction of others when you do and don’t enact that change.

When you lead with kindness and curiosity, magic happens. Put these practices at the heart of how your organization operates and witness miracles. Take it even further by imagining a business world in which this approach is the norm. It’s a world you can help manifest today, by making love the new necessity in your organization, one small act of kindness at a time.

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